backport: merge bitcoin#24531, #25500, #25814, #25962, #26888, #27264, #27257, #27324, #27374, #27467, #27411, partial bitcoin#25472 (networking backports: part 8)

backport: merge bitcoin#24531, #25500, #25814, #25962, #26888, #27264, #27257, #27324, #27374, #27467, #27411, partial bitcoin#25472 (networking backports: part 8) #8745