backport: merge bitcoin#25678, #26040, #26847, #25619, #27214, #26261, #27745, #27529, #28341, partial bitcoin#25331 (addrman backports: part 4)

backport: merge bitcoin#25678, #26040, #26847, #25619, #27214, #26261, #27745, #27529, #28341, partial bitcoin#25331 (addrman backports: part 4) #8727